Monday, April 7, 2014


I've been thinking a lot lately about the misconceptions I have when I 'evaluate' someone else's circumstances (aka make a judgement).

Here are some current ones, usually inspired by the facebook highlight reel:

1) Someone posts something about what new thing they've done to their house/yard and I have a pity party about how it feels like we'll never be able to afford that stuff. But then I remind myself that I don't know all the details. We could 'afford' some of that stuff if we were willing to put it on a credit card. We could afford some of that stuff if our mortgage was the amount of people who bought after the crash, instead of being 'lucky' enough to be paying twice as much as some of our friends for the same house. Or even less house. We could afford some of that stuff if we didn't have student loans and the accompanying degrees that allow us jobs we LOVE that have a lasting impact on the lives of young people. So, yeah. I'm still envious that our house isn't what we want it to be- yet but I'm incredibly proud of why it isn't. 

2) Someone posts a fitness/weight loss update or invites me to a run and I feel depressed and fat and flabby. And then I remember that my body has grown and birthed two 9 pound babies and nursed them for a total of 3+ years and counting. And that I haven't slept a full night in over 4 years. So yeah, still envious, but it can wait. 

3) Another mom posts about this craft, that project, this outing, that volunteer project and I ache for my former busy me. I'm still getting used to the new me, the mom. I'm adapting to the children and family God gave me and just how much of me they require. And I remind myself that this is just a phase and that I am blessed to join my Jesus in painful sacrificing. I am growing in ways unfathomable to me and I really like this person I'm becoming. I'm not going to lie though- someday, I hope to be more of the old me again- busy, crafty, volunteer, etc. Just tempered; softer, slower, kinder, etc. 

What is making you feel down? Look at it honestly. There might be less there than you think ;)


  1. I can relate to all of these, but mostly to number 3. Still figuring out how to be "me" and be "mommy." It's hard.

  2. This mom gig IS hard! HARD!